With time, healing, accepting responsibility for our lives and with the grace and wisdom that comes from maturing there comes a time that each of us must ask and seek answers to four basic questions:
1. Who am I? This is the basic question that asks us to look beyond our physicality and ego and find who we really are at our core being. When we have found the answer to this question it changes everything. When we are not sure of who we are, we live life questioning and guessing where to go and what to do. But once we are sure of our own nature, assisted by reliable inner guidance we live our lives from a place of confidence. We are able to find comfort in our own being and live from that place.
2. What do I love? It is so necessary to feel and identify those experiences that cause us to be expanded by the emotion of love. What we love has the ability to draw us forward and shape our life and destiny. Our love teaches us what to look for, where to aim, where to walk. With our every action, word, relationship and commitment, we slowly and inevitably become what we love. So it becomes vitally important to learn to know what we truly love – not what we are supposed to love, but to discern and choose those things we truly love. Then to involve what we love more fully in our daily lives.
3. How shall I live knowing that I will die? The reality that our time incarnate is limited and when it will end is not know can be the impetus for how we choose to live. A clear perception of our death forces us to consider our life as something worth living; gives us the wisdom to make the most of whatever time we do have. Life is impermanent and it is precisely because of its impermanence that we value life so dearly. When we awake to our own mortality then we begin to appreciate that we are alive. From this awareness can spring the determination not to waste what precious time we are given and to focus on making something meaningful of our lives.
4. What is my gift to the family of Earth? We each come into this world with gifts, talents and inherent visible aspects of our soul personality and energy. Every day we are given countless opportunities to offer our gifts to those at our work, in our families and in our relationships. To recognize that we have gifts and own the responsibility to share these gifts with others is a part of our life journey. Identifying what our soul wants to give to others and then be courageous enough to open and share is our gift both to others and to ourselves.
Quoting the Dalai Lama – “We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety, a hundred years at the very most. During that period we must try to do something good, something useful with our lives. Try to be at peace with yourself and help others share that peace. If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the meaning of life.”
If you have not yet answered these four questions for your life, then doing so may bring wisdom to your journey and richness to the time you remain here.