A very dear and wise friend recently reminded me that we are each made up of our stories.  Stories of the things we have experienced and the places we've been, stories that we are writing in every moment as we live the journey of our lives moment to moment. Each of us chooses the general theme of the story we are born into - the location on the planet, the parents, the cultural, educational, social, political and financial conditions we will be born into.  Then [...]


Fear is an interesting emotion for it really doesn't exist in the physical world except in our minds.  The components of fear include anxiety, stress and perhaps even anger and are the result of the ego mind placing judgment on an experience and determining that it is too painful to be experienced again.  So then fear becomes the pain that arises from the anticipation that something dreadful could happen to us again.  Fear is an energy pattern that becomes stored in our body / mind [...]


First let me offer my heartfelt gratitude for those friends and family who took the time to offer words of compassion when I recently lost my cat, Misha.  Your words have helped me through this loss and I am blessed by your caring.  Your kindness led me to write more about expressions of caring and how important it is in times of loss or difficulty. It was many decades ago at a time when I was a young mother with two small daughters and was [...]


As I have spent some time this last week processing the recent loss of my pet and life companion, Misha it has led me to ponder on the subject of loss in general.  Being human we will all encounter varying degrees of loss in a life time - so learning how to process through it will be an important part of our life journey. As I have looked back over my life I can attest that there have been many experiences that I would call [...]


She was a small gray tabbie kitten that my son picked out of a box of kittens twenty years ago. She spent the first part of her life journey living with him, but as he was young and his living environment ever-changing she came to live with me permanently some eighteen years ago or so. She had the largest owly eyes - always looking both inquisitive and wise at the same time and she always had a sweet look on her face. She was small [...]


Since we are all human, there will come a time for all of us when we will be faced with our own mortality. In that moment when we know that the length of our life may be limited....we will have the opportunity to review, think back and may find that there are things in our life path that we have regrets about. There are some fairly common themes for the things people have regrets about when faced with their own mortality. 1) Wishing that you [...]

Valuing Real Beauty

Real beauty doesn't really have anything to do with our outward appearance.  We are not our clothing size, nor the width of our waist, nor the shape of our legs.  We are not the color of our hair, our skin, nor the color of our lipstick (if worn).  Our shoe size is of no consequence.  We are not defined by the amount of attention we get from males, females or any combination thereof.  We are not the number of sit-ups that we can do, nor [...]

Message Giver

The human form is the vehicle with which we experience the journey of life.  As we traverse through life we encounter experiences that wound our heart, mind and spirit which create stress and contraction in the body.  When we encounter conflict, stress, or experiences that remind us of our wounds, we begin to contract our energy in habitual ways which builds up "armoring" in the body.  Through this constriction of energy flow the body responds by giving us reminders of what needs to be healed. [...]

The Battle of the Wolves

There is a Cherokee proverb that goes like this:  "There is a battle of two wolves inside us all.  One is evil.  It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, lies, inferiority and ego.  The other is good.  It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth.  The wolf that wins??  The one you feed." Being human we all have this internal opposition of forces - but it is what we act upon that decides if we remain true to a higher intention and vibration [...]

Title IX & Balance

On June 23rd this year it is the 40th anniversary of the enactment of the Education Amendment of 1972 that included what is known as Title IX. The education amendment states that no person in the United States shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation in, be denied benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any education program or activity. The Civil Rights Act of 1964 was written in order to end discrimination based on religion, race, color, or national origin [...]

Family History

There is an upcoming wedding for one of the extended members of our family and as a wedding gift a couple of us are collaborating on a family history book.  Working on this project has given cause to reflect on families and their history - and on our family history in particular.  Each of us selected a family to be born into for the very specific lessons we could learn from the already in progress story line.  Being able to examine the family history over [...]

Blind Spots

As I approached writing my post this week I was still in reflective mode from last weeks post about how important it is to live a heart centric life for ourselves, others and for ease in dying.  My thought process led me to consider that we all have blind spots in our line of sight about ourselves that may prevent us from seeing our own shortcomings as far as being open-hearted, compassionate and giving. In my family (and in yours too, I expect) there is [...]

Living & Dying

Today I attended the funeral of a long time friend, who is also the father-in-law of one of my children.  We have known this family for many decades of time and even though we each have moved to different places, we did arrive at the same place once again later in life.  We have had the opportunity to spend time with them for family events, etc. for the last many years. When someone we know passes it gives the opportunity to pause and reflect on [...]

Soul “Mates”

When we are not embodied we live in a realm where we are pure soul energy.  In this environment we are never alone.  From the time we are formed from source energy into our unique soul form we are joined with a small group of fellow souls.  In this group we find those souls that we are most closely affiliated with - our soul cluster or soul family, if you will.  As we grow and learn we may leave this initial cluster group to join [...]

Labeling & Lessons

As humans we have the tendency to identify all things by naming or labeling them.  We label the things in our world so that we can readily identify them and communicate about them in dialogue.  This makes moving through life easier, simpler - adds understanding and order to our world. While labeling objects is a neutral act, we also have the habit of labeling emotions and in this process we tend to step away from neutrality.  When we encounter circumstances that cause an emotional reaction [...]

Loving Yourself

As I have traveled through my own life and worked with many clients it has become apparent that loving oneself is so very important and often so very elusive.  A lack of self love and self worth afflicts many of us and hinders our progress.  Often this damage to our self esteem and self image occurs in our developmental years as children.  When we are young we accept others opinions and assessments of ourselves as fact.  This may create wounds that are often hidden and [...]

Valuing Uniqueness

Years ago when I was much younger I was fortunate to have a child born to me that loved to sing.  Her sister would be in school and she and I would have the day together and no matter what we would be doing she always would sing.  I remember her standing on the long bench seat of our car (pre-seat belt era), standing beside me, hanging onto my shoulder as we drove and she would sing.  She learned songs from her family, church, radio, [...]

Commencement Address

A friend of mine sent this to me two years ago and it resonated with me so strongly that I am including it as my post this week.  I seems to be in keeping with my last two posts on the topic of responsibility.......and hope.  I do hope you will enjoy - Paul Hawken’s Commencement Address to the Class of 2009 University of Portland, May 3rd, 2009 When I was invited to give this speech, I was asked if I could give a simple short [...]

Further Responsibility

In considering the topic of life responsibility I became aware that there is a broader view of responsibility that I could address.  While we certainly are responsible for our individual lives we are also part of a whole and our area of responsibility reaches beyond our personal lives into the world / universe at large. While incarnate we live on a small planet in a large universe and at all times we are connected to oneness across an energetic web of life manifesting. We have [...]


Over many years of doing my own inner work, and in doing inner journey work with clients I have come to know that while we are pure soul energy, prior to incarnating, we have the opportunity to view and select the next life we shall come into for learning and experience.  This place of life selection is often described as resembling a movie theater which allows souls to see themselves in future life options - playing different roles in various settings.  With a clear understanding [...]